“Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserved - but don’t do it again.”
— (via purplebuddhaquotes)
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Stop Settling for Mediocrity
In relationships, with men, with food…JUST STOP.
Recently, I have spoken with friends who have settled; they are content in settling, particularly in romantic relationships, and this truly breaks my heart. My friends and sisters are beautiful, important, caring, special, loving, and magnificent. Yet, they are settling for men who are just nice…that’s it…They have few other positive characteristics. Now, don’t get me wrong…I think a partner should be nice AND (list positive characteristics here).
But, why do we settle for less than what we deserve? Based on observation and personal experience, I have compiled my top two reasons.
- Low self-esteem
- Lack of faith in what God can do
Low self-esteem: We settle for less than we really deserve because we believe that that is all that we can get. If you think you are worthless, then you will settle for someone who treats you as such. At my lowest point, I seemed to only attract men who were abusive and mean. Why was that? Because I presented myself as someone who did not think much of myself and that was recognized by men who were looking to treat someone any way they wanted to. Ladies, we have to start believing that we are worth something. I have learned that you attract certain men based on the characteristics you exude; you get what you put out. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Recognize that and the man that is worthy of your time will, too, recognize that and pursue accordingly.
Lack of faith in what God can do: We settle for less than we deserve because we do not have faith that God will do better. I have asked friends why they continue to stay with their boyfriend even though they are mistreated, and they have said, “because he is nice and I don’t know if I will find anyone else.” If you know that you are discontent in your current relationship but are fearful that you will not be able to find better, then you are expressing doubt in the capabilities of our Heavenly Father. I, too, have been doubtful that God will provide me with the man that I have prayed for and have stayed in relationships because I was afraid that was the best I could get; I can relate to that (especially being single for some time and accepting the first man that expressed interest in me).
However, I have learned, from many experiences, that I would rather be happy and single then be miserable in the wrong relationship. And if I am single, then God does not want me to be in relationship for a specific reason. Until my time, I continue to have faith (and pray for faith) that He will bring me the man that I prayed for…the man that is loving, kind, supportive, ambitious, handsome, and, most importantly, God fearing. So, I will wait, and I will not settle for less than God’s best for me. Settling for anything less is insulting to the Creator of the Universe.
